The Difference Between Winners & Losers

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The Winner is always part of the answer;
The Loser is always part of the problem.

The Winner always has a program;
The Loser always has an excuse.

The Winner says, “Let me do it for you”;
The Loser says, “That is not my job.”

The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
The Loser sees a problem for every answer.

The Winner says, “It may be difficult but it is possible”;
The Loser says, “It may be possible but it is too difficult.”

When a Winner makes a mistake, he says, “I was wrong”;
When a Loser makes a mistake, he says, “It wasn’t my fault.”

A Winner makes commitments;
A Loser makes promises.

Winners have dreams;
Losers have schemes.

Winners say, “I must do something”;
Losers say, “Something must be done.”

Winners are a part of the team;
Losers are apart from the team.

Winners see the gain;
Losers see the pain.

Winners see possibilities;
Losers see problems.

Winners see the potential;

Losers see the past.

Winners are like a thermostat;
Losers are like thermometers.

Winners choose what they say;
Losers say what they choose.

Winners use hard arguments but soft words;
Losers use soft arguments but hard words.

Winners stand firm on values but compromise on petty things;
Losers stand firm on petty things but compromise on values.

Winners follow the philosophy of empathy: “Don’t do to others what you would not want them to do to you”;
Losers follow the philosophy, “Do it to others before they do it to you.”

Winners make it happen;
Losers let it happen.

 

Quote of The Day

When two people know that and they decide with eyes open to face each other and get married anyway then, I don’t think it’s conservative or delusional. I think it’s radical and courageous and very romantic.

Have A wonderful Morning 🙂

What Goes Around .. Comes Around – 10 Minutes Read

One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.

Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn’t look safe; he looked poor and hungry. He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you. He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in the car where it’s warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson.”

Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.
As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn’t thank him enough for coming to her aid.

Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.

Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.
He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, “And think of me.”
He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.

A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn’t erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan.

After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.

There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: “You don’t owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I’m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.”Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.

Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard….
She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, “Everything’s going to be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson.”

There is an old saying  …..

6 Reasons Why We Lie ..

We all lie, but why do we lie? Sure, lying is both useful and sometimes even fun, yet there are fundamental reasons why we lie.

These main reasons are:

  • Fear of harm: The easiest reason to understand why we lie is for self protection, including self deception, to prevent harm to ourselves. This harm can be either physical or mental.

 

  • Fear of conflict: To some degree, we all fear having an argument.

 

  • Fear of punishment: When growing up, how often did we lie about how well we did in school, or who started a fight? How often do we cover up our mistakes and transgressions?

 

  • Fear of rejection: Sometimes, our insecurities are the foundation of why we lie to each other, because we want to remain popular in our relationships. Typically, it is harmless boasting to make ourselves appear more admirable to other people.

 

  • Fear of loss: This is usually the loss of personal objects, such as money or expensive valuables. Greed is the foundation for this reason and can be found in each of us. We often lie to make ourselves more desirable to other people too. Most common, people lie for fear of losing an opportunity to have sex. Other times, when our self esteem starts to decline, we even lie to ourselves as means to prevent loss of morale.

 

  • Altruistic Reasons: We often lie to help our friends and loved ones. How often do we flattery someone just to make them feel better? This is the only selfless reason why we lie.

 

Despite all the technical reasons why people lie, it all boils down to this:

The fundamental reason why people lie is because it mostly works.

And because lying has become more understood in today’s society, lying has become more acceptable. It has sometimes even become an admirable and useful social skill.

That is the Truth about Lies.

 

What Really Counts: Awesome Quiz

 

 

 

 


You don't actually have to take the quiz. Just read straight through, and you'll get the point, an awesome one. .....

 


Take this quiz:
1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America contest.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor actress.
6. Name the last decade's worth of World Series winners.
How did you do?

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are
no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields.
But the applause dies. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.


Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:
1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel, appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.
6. Name half a dozen heroes whose stories have inspired you. Easier?


The lesson: The people who make a difference in your life are not
the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They are the ones that care.
Pass this on to those people who have made a difference in your life.

How Valuable You Are !!

A well known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?”

Hands started going up.

He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.” He proceeded to crumple the dollar bill up.

He then asked, “Who still wants it?”

Still the hands were up in the air.

“Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?” And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe.

He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. “Now who still wants it?” Still the hands went into the air.

“My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.  

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.

We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. You are special – Don’t ever forget it ! 

The author is unknown unfortunately, but the story is full of meanings so that I’ve shared it ..

Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who love you. The worth of our lives comes, not in what we do or whom we know, but by … WHO WE ARE.

The Window : Inspiring Short Story

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man  was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour a day to drain the fluids from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and  families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military  service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the  man in the bed next to the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed would live for those one-hour periods where  his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and  color of the outside world. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said. Ducks and swans played on the water while  children sailed their model boats. Lovers walked arm in arm amid flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite  detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.  Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive  words. Unexpectedly, an alien thought entered his head: Why should he have all the pleasure of seeing everything while I never get to see  anything? It didn’t seem fair. As the thought fermented, the man felt  ashamed at first. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He  began to brood and found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that  window – and that thought now controlled his life.

Late one night, as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window  began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man  watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running. In less than five minutes, the coughing and choking  stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only silence–deathly silence.

The following morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window, she was saddened and called the hospital attendant to take it away–no  words, no fuss. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the man asked if he  could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his   first look. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.

Moral of the story:

The pursuit of happiness is a matter of choice…it is a positive attitude we consciously choose to express. It is not a gift that gets delivered to our doorstep each morning, nor does it come through the window. And I am certain that our circumstances are just a small part of what makes us joyful. If we wait for them to get just right, we will never find lasting joy.

The pursuit of happiness is an inward journey. Our minds are like   programs, awaiting the code that will determine behaviors; like bank vaults awaiting our deposits. If we regularly deposit positive, encouraging, and uplifting thoughts, if we continue to bite our lips  just before we begin to grumble and complain, if we shoot down that seemingly harmless negative thought as it germinates, we will find that there is much to rejoice about.

7 Amazing Success Lessons from Pablo Picasso

Pablo Ruiz Picasso was a famous Spanish painter, draughtsman, and sculptor who lived most of his adult life in France; he is best known for co-founding the Cubist movement and for the wide variety of styles embodied in his work.

Among his most popular works are the proto-Cubist Les Demoiselles d’Avignon (1907) and Guernica (1937), his portrayal of the German bombing of Guernica during the Spanish Civil War.

Picasso demonstrated uncanny artistic talent in his early years, painting in a realistic manner through his childhood and adolescence; during the first decade of the 20th century his style changed as he experimented with different theories, techniques, and ideas.

His revolutionary artistic accomplishments brought him universal renown and immense fortune throughout his life, making him one of the best-known figures in 20th century art.

7 Amazing Success Lessons from Pablo Picasso:

1. Get into Action

“Action is the foundational key to all success.”

The first part of done is do; to succeed you must be in action.  Put together a “brainless” strategy for your success and work that strategy day-in and day-out.  Success will only find you if you’re in action.  Are you in action?

2. Be Like a Child

“All children are artists.  The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.”

Artists create, to succeed you must create.  You must create a better life from what you have now, just as a child you have the power to create.  The question is are you going to do it.  You can make excuses, you can complain, or you can create the life of your dreams, starting right now.

3. Learn How to Steal

“Bad artists copy.  Good artists steal.”

When you steal, you make it your own.  So much so that the person who’s been defrauded doesn’t even recognize that they’ve been heisted.  You give your stolen ideas a new twist, a new spin; in a way that only you can do.  …Only bad artists copy!

4. First Things First

“Every act of creation is first an act of destruction.”

Sometimes things get worse, before they get better.  Even after you climb one mountain, you have to go into a deeper valley to climb the next mountain.  Life happens in cycles; sometimes you have to tear down before you can build up.

5. The Imagination Is Powerful

“Everything you can imagine is real.”

When you imagine something you make it real.  It then exists in the world of imagination.  Through right action that imagination becomes reality.  But it all starts in the imagination.  Every great company, every great concept, was once just an idea in someone’s imagination.

6. Think Bigger

“He can who thinks he can, and he can’t who thinks he can’t.  This is an inexorable, indisputable law.”

There are two types of people, those who think they can, and those who think they can’t, in which do you belong.  It’s pretty simple, if you really believe you can do something, and if you can hold on to that belief, through the ups and downs you will accomplish it.  You have to think big, and to think big you have to talk big.  I’m not talking about talking to others; you have to talk “big” to yourself.

7. Experience

“I am always doing that in which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it.”

Nothing can take the place of experience.  Do what you’ve never done, to get what you’ve never gotten.  You have to expand your horizons; you have to enter new waters.  When you do, you will grow, and you will change.

The Value a Smile

The value of a smile is priceless, yet it is the cheapest, easiest, most rewarding and most sincere gift to anyone that crosses your path. A smile makes a person’s day, anybody’s day even a stranger’s day. A smile is infectious. Start infecting people with your smile today.

A smile is nature’s best antidote for discouragement. It brings rest to the weary, sunshine to those who are sad, and hope to those who are hopeless and defeated.

A story of hope , a story of determination

Dario Debray Silva Pereira (born November 2, 1972 in Treinta y Tres), commonly known as Darío Silva, is a former footballer who played as a striker. He represented Uruguay 46 times at the international level, scoring 14 goals, and retired from international football after Uruguay failed to qualify for the 2006 FIFA World Cup.

Silva began his career in 1991 when he joined Defensor Sporting Club. From there he moved on to play for Peñarol and Cagliari Calcio. He then played for Espanyol, Malaga and Sevilla. After spending two years in La Liga with Sevilla FC, Silva decided to cancel the last year of his contract after discovering he was not in manager Joaquin Caparros’s plans for their new campaign. He joined Portsmouth on a free transfer from Sevilla in 2005, signing a two-year deal. However, the former international failed to make an impact after suffering an ankle injury, and after scoring just three goals in 15 appearances he was released from his contract on February 14, 2006.

On September 23, 2006, Silva was seriously injured in a car accident in Montevideo. In the impact Silva fractured his skull, knocking him unconscious and suffering a compound fracture on his right leg. On the day of the accident, a team of five made the decision to amputate his leg below the knee, and Silva underwent an operation which lasted for 3 and a half hours. He was put into a medically induced coma for the amputation. Dario quoted after knowing that he lost his leg “When I found out what happened, I couldn’t control myself. I was in such a shock, I didn’t want to live anymore,” admitted 34 year old Silva, who cannot remember the accident. He adds: “When it became clear, what my family went through because of me, I quickly realized that I’m lucky to be alive!”

Silva left the hospital on October 5 and returned to his home in Montevideo. He went to Italy to receive a prosthetic leg to help him walk without the aid of crutches. Dario did replied all of the letters that have been sent to him , to support him while he is in hospital right after he got back to home .Dario Silva is now aiming to make the 2012 Olympics as a rower.

 

Dario Silva in action "with an artificial leg"

Tragedy only took one leg from him, not his will to life and his eternal optimism. he adapted very well to his artificial leg, which was made in Italy. When he visited Bologna for fittings. Almost unbelievably Dario Silva took the pitch again on Jan 13 2009 after a 3 year absence, taking part in a charity match between Uruguay XI and the Argentina XI for the “Fundación Niños con Alas” (Children with Wings Foundation). Showing he still has it, he not only played but stepped up to score a penalty !

That was one of the most emotional scenes I’ve ever seen ..

The following video shows some of Dario’s goal: